Prep Goals: Heart and Mind

Do you know how to be a wife, homemaker, housekeeper, cook, laundress, seamstress (nurse, home manager, gardener . . .)? Are your heart and mind in tune and ready? Are you “a virtuous woman” whose price is “far above rubies” (Pro. 31:10)?


Have you read these posts? They come before this one:

For the Bride: Things to Consider

Preparing Yourself: Things to Consider


Prep Goals: Preparing Your Heart and Mind


Picking Your Goals

Everyone is different. This is a time for personal reflection, personal evaluation, prayer, and discussion with your man.

What’s important to you? What do you value? What kind of new wife do you want to be?

What’s important to your husband?What are his values and ideas?

What is your understanding of God’s will for your role as wife?

Where you are now in relation to these things?


What to Consider

  • Your role as a wife and your preparedness for that.
  • Your role as a homemaker and your preparedness for that.
  • You roles as housekeeper, cook, laundress, seamstress, home manager, home nurse, gardener, etc. , and your preparedness for each those roles.
  • Your attitude and mindset.
  • Your character.
  • Your mental and emotional health and well-being.
  • Your knowledge, skills, and experience
  • Your resources for future development (i.e. you could add books to your library that will help you in the future.
  • Your time management, self-management, money management, resource management, problem-solving, goal-setting, follow-through, etc. abilities.
  • Your interpersonal skills (including communication).


Factors to Consider When Deciding What to Do

What’s essential? Start there.

What’s important? Add these if you can.

What’s urgent? What MUST be done now if it’s done at all?

What’s fun? Life is hard enough without making one of the most exciting and happy times of your life a drudgery! While you may have to face some tough stuff and do unpleasant things, make sure you have fun too.

What’s easy? Honestly, it’s more likely to get done! Also, starting out with easier things can give you the “umph” you need to get into the harder things. A sense of accomplishment can be very motivating!

What’s convenient? What fits best into your life right now?

How long is your engagement? If it’s short, you won’t have a lot of time to prepare before the wedding. Choose carefully what you attempt!

How much time and energy will you have during your engagement to work on stuff?


Here’s a challenge for you: Ask yourself , and God, “What five things do I need to do during our engagement to prepare my heart and mind for being my man’s wife?” and “What five things do I need to do during our engagement to prepare my heart and mind to be a homemaker?” You may not end up with exactly five things–and that’s okay! 



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